Recovering after dating a borderline

Some people pull away for space, which is possibly the hardest thing for us to take.This may be because it’s thought that BPD could stem from early attachment issues in childhood, so another of the main symptoms is a ‘chronic fear of abandonment (real or perceived)’.

Paranoia is a common symptom among people with BPD, and this can blow not replying to a text, because your phone was on silent, into your partner thinking you have been hit by a bus/run away with the circus/are having an affair with your boss, in under 30 minutes.

In my somewhat limited but quite eventful 26 years of experience, as a person with BPD, the way to make it work with that person is always communication.

If you communicate clearly and honestly then you get rid of that fear of the unknown, the fear that you’ll disappear, and the fear they have of not being good enough.

Think of it as installing an emotional stair lift for that broken leg til it heals.

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