Dating sites economy
Conquering the dating market — from an economist’s point of view.
After more than twenty years, economist Paul Oyer found himself back on the dating scene — but what a difference a few years made.
But both firms and workers have incentives to find the perfect version of the other, which can lead to unemployment.
Oyer carries this metaphor over to people who are holding out for their soul mate, calling them “romantically unemployed.” He suggests flipping the narrative from “settling” for someone who isn’t perfect to finding a partner “who is really great,” he said. Eligible men are indeed scarcer than available women, especially in major cities.
For all online daters — and for anyone else swimming in the vast sea of the information economy — this book uses Oyer’s own experiences, and those of millions of others, to help you navigate the key economic concepts that drive the modern age.
In economics, workers are looking for firms to hire them, and firms are seeking workers, too.
Well, from an economist’s perspective, I was ignoring what we call “statistical discrimination.” And so, people see that you’re separated, and they assume a lot more than just that.
I just thought, “I’m separated, I’m happy, I’m ready to look for a new relationship,” but a lot of people assume if you’re separated, you’re either not really — that you may go back to your former spouse — or that you’re an emotional wreck, that you’re just getting over the breakup of your marriage and so forth.
So naively just saying, “Hey, I’m ready for a new relationship,” or whatever I wrote in my profile, I got a lot of notices from women saying things like, “You look like the type of person I would like to date, but I don’t date people until they’re further away from their past relationship.” So that’s one mistake.
If it had dragged on for years and years, it would have gotten really tiresome.