Dating a single mother with a teenage daughter
I got a lot of interest and requests to go out when that one tiny detail of me being a full-time-no-breaks-no-weekends-away or shared custody-no circle of friends or grandparents how to even attempt to date a single mom.(I get it, NOT ALL GUYS are clueless and if you met yours online, awesome! ) I figured maybe I’d put out a kind of PSA if you will, for those of you who are actually considering dating a single mom: 1.) Realize the cost of childcare: It may just be a coffee or drink out of your pocket, but for the single mom you’re asking out it’s SO much more.Just suck it up and get it over with.” I get it, maybe that’s not the right frame of mind to have when going into a date, “just get it over with,” but just being honest here.I parked and found my way to the coffee shop all the while thinking “this better be darn good coffee or the most amazing man ever for all this effort.” I met my date and he was polite and bought my coffee and conversation ensued, if you want to call it conversation at all, he really just talked about himself the whole time.” After that statement, the whole date was just sort of a wash. If you can’t stand up to the fact that she’s surveying your every move for any signs of “dad-like” characteristics, or you wouldn’t even consider going to help her if she texts you last minute to cancel a date because her kids are all taking turns throwing up on her, then don’t ask her out. 5.) Honor the “baggage:” Look, as humans, we’ve all got baggage, but single parents seem to have a couple extra bags.Kids hard when you’re a single parent, but they’re also my everything. Understand there was someone before, either an ex- and parent of her child, or in a widow’s case, a husband and father will never be forgotten and who will always be loved, always.Acknowledge this on all fronts and remember it going forward to these other tips.2.) Time is precious, don’t waste hers: I was recently asked out to a coffee shop date.